If you’ve ever had friends go through a bitter divorce (or if you yourself are an adult child of divorce), then you know that divorce has a particular way of tearing people and families apart. So many things can go wrong. Disputes over money. Disputes over custody. Name calling and recriminations. Expensive divorce lawyers. Family court judges who treat fathers like criminals.
Fortunately, there actually is a better way: uncontested divorce.
What is uncontested divorce?
For many couples wondering, “What is uncontested divorce?”, it’s the answer they’ve been looking for. Simply put, an uncontested divorce occurs when soon-to-be-former spouses already agree on issues like child custody, spousal support, child support, division of assets, and key co-parenting issues.
There are three important caveats we should note:
First, it’s important to note that every state has its own approach to divorce and family law, and so even if you plan of moving forward with an amicable divorce, it may still be worthwhile to speak to divorce attorneys. Many husbands prefer to hire divorce attorneys for men, and vice versa.
Second, even if you’re 100% certain your spouse will not contest your petition for divorce or fight you in court, at any time either spouse can turn an uncontested divorce into the bitter divorce you’re trying to avoid. Never assume you are in agreement on anything. Clear, direct communication now can avoid major problems down the road. And again, if you have any questions at all, speak with a divorce or family law attorney before moving forward.
Third, if you think an uncontested divorce is going to be simple, you’re in for a nasty surprise. For instance, in New York state, the courts have 37 different divorce forms associated with uncontested divorce alone.
All that being said, an uncontested divorce can save time, money, stress, and the bitter emotions that typically come with a contested divorce proceeding. If you and your spouse can agree to the important issues ahead of time, then you can spare yourselves, your children, and everyone around you from the painful drama normally associated with divorce.